The Jewish month of "Av" is about relationships. This is a special month of the year. It's about hearing, deep hearing. It's the "Shema" affirmation prayer, where we inwardly hear our own minds contemplate Your Oneness and by extension Your Infinity. We feel our connection with You, our Oneness in You and then pull away ever so slightly from that state to feel "love" with You; Your love, our love, the same love. We feel our relationship with You, with all others, with ourselves. It's the same relationship.
Can Your Infinity fit in our hearts, as some would claim? Does it matter? It only matters that I share love with You. In the experience of love one forgets levels. One forgets to bring along the measuring rod. One forgets what a measuring rod is or even what a measure is. I know not where Your kiss begins or mine ends. It's one continuous kiss.
This is what it's like to share love! Relationships may have and should have "Adar" moments, giddy moments. But like the month of "Av", it's mostly serious business. It's commitment and work, but, also the very best of what it means to be human in every sense.
So, far from being frightened of "Av", I pray to embrace its gifts to build relationships, strong ones! Just like the high priest Aaron had. When we wholly accept the gifts, there are only blessings!